Individual Therapy
This is a space where no
performance is required.
Show up as you are.
You Don’t Have to Perform Here
A lot of people come to therapy already skilled at managing how they show up for other people. Maybe it looks like reading a room, softening the hard parts, making sure everyone else is okay first. These coping skills might still be effective, but folks I work with often describe feeling exhausted by them.
I don't expect you to have to do any of that here. You can come in mid-crash out, with half-baked thoughts, or unsure of what you even want to talk about. There's no version of "doing it right” here.
If you've read every book you can find
on burnout and relationships
and you're still left wondering
why does something feel off?
You've found the place for you.
Support for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
A lot of the people I work with grew up with a parent or caretaker who couldn't quite meet them where they were at, emotionally. This was not necessarily out of cruelty, more so because of their own limitations. That leaves a particular kind of mark though.
You might notice that you’re the…
→ “achiever:” you learned that it wasn’t acceptable to be less than perfect
→ “independent/easy one:” you tend to take care of yourself
→ “peacekeeper:” you step in when conflict happens
→ “responsible one:” you pay attention and anticipate other’s needs
No matter what role you took on, you never got to be a kid who could fall and know their parent or caretaker would catch them. If that sounds familiar, this is exactly the kind of work I do. I can help you begin to identify the patterns that contributed to the roles you’ve taken on. Through unraveling these webs, you can build a relationship with yourself that is authentically you and help you attune to your needs.
What This Might
Look Like For You
If what you've read so far resonates, you might be struggling with anxiety, depression, or complex trauma. Trauma does not have to be a singular event, but can be multiple ruptures over the course of years. And I know, those words might sound intense. None of your symptoms define you as a person though. I use parts work and a relational lens, which means we're not just going to talk about you as the problem. We’re going to approach this with curiosity, not pathology. And in doing so, we can help you to build a different relationship to this altogether.
All Parts of You
Are Welcome Here
I believe every part of you deserves to be seen, welcomed, and loved exactly as it is. No part of you needs to change to be more palatable. Your story and lived experience matters. And I am committed to creating a space where you feel safe to be all of who you are and honor all parts of you.
I am not a blank slate therapist. Neutrality isn't actually neutral, in my opinion. I bring respect for all aspects of your identity, incorporating an antiracist approach, disability justice, and Health at Every Size (HAES) into my work as a therapist. Your gender identity and sexual orientation will be respected and celebrated.
"A home isn't always
the house we live in."
— T.J. Klune from
The House in the Cerulean Sea
What Modalities I Use
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
IFS is an evidence-based therapy that really captures the idea that human beings contain multitudes. The 1992 classic film The Mighty Ducks depicts IFS beautifully. We all have a Self (coach) who works with our parts (child hockey players) to let go of what they no longer need to carry, heal their wounds, and reconnect with their strengths. In doing so, our parts are able to work together harmoniously (the Flying V).
Somatic &
Polyvagal Theory
Polyvagal Theory is research conducted by Dr. Stephen Porges about our nervous system’s responses. This framework believes that if we can learn how our nervous system reacts to when it feels safe, stressful, and completely overwhelming, we can use different somatic techniques to create that sense of safety and calm. Think about doing warm-ups and stretches before being physically active. It’s often routine movement that settles you.
Psychodynamic therapy is evidence-based and looks to answer the question most people have, “Why?” Often, folks return to old patterns because coping skills aren’t always enough. This approach looks at early childhood experiences and past relationships to find those patterns that might be holding you back from meaningful change. It’s as if we’re watching the game tape.
Psychodynamic & Attachment Theory
“Be curious, not judgmental.”
- Ted Lasso not Walt Whitman
Individual Therapy in Illinois and Colorado
How I Structure Therapy
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I recommend starting at a weekly cadence for at least 6 to 8 weeks. If schedules allow, we’ll find a recurring day/time that we can schedule your sessions. Having previously worked in the healthcare field, I understand this is not always possible and work to be flexible to meet those with constraints.
Consistency in the beginning is so important to building a strong, trusting relationship. And while it may feel long, 6 to 8 hours together, factoring in standard sessions, isn’t a lot of time to really learn all that you want me to know about you. This steady rhythm gives us the runway to make meaningful progress towards your goals.
That being said, I do believe that therapy is an individual process. We can and will revisit this cadence to make sure it still feels right for you. Ultimately, therapy should feel supportive and address your needs.
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A diagnosis does not define you here. I understand for some, it can be relieving and affirming. For others, it feels limiting and pathologizing. No matter how you feel, you can expect that you will be met with care for all parts of you and collaboration.
It is worth noting that if you are seeking insurance reimbursement for services, they require a mental health diagnosis. As with all things, I handle disclosing this information ethically and based on the individual’s needs.
Room to Actually
Slow Down
Alongside standard 50-minute sessions, I also offer 90-minute sessions, as availability allows. As a trauma-informed therapist, I believe that offering extended sessions allows for space to build trust, connect, prepare our nervous systems, process and engage in experiential work, and close out with debriefing and wrapping up so that our nervous systems feel settled before moving out of session.
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For folks doing deeper trauma work, an hour often isn’t quite enough time. For many, they can feel rushed to get right to the emotion and risk flooding. For others, they reach the point of processing with only 5 minutes left before the standard session ends.
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Yes, the cost of 90-minute sessions are $250.
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Unfortunately, insurance payors do not currently provide a billing code for 90-minute sessions. So, I am currently able to offer these sessions at a private pay rate only.